Save Marriage Secrets

If you’ve ever wondered what happened when things
have been going along pretty well in your relationship
and suddenly, it feels like the bottom just fell out and
you don’t know why…

You’re not alone.

We’ve all been there and felt that sinking feeling that
we don’t have a clue how this disagreement and
separation happened.

When one or both of you get argumentative,
manipulative, shut down, mistrustful, discouraged,
infuriated or whatever happens in your drama…

It’s because of a bad relationship idea–and those “bad”
ideas turn into beliefs that you hang onto for dear life.

Here’s the thing about a belief…

It’s just an idea you’ve practiced over and over–which is
all well and good if it brings you the happiness you want.

But if the belief or idea doesn’t bring you what you want,
then it’s worth looking at to see if you want to start
practicing another idea or belief that might work better.

In my next few blog posts I will bring you 7 bad relationship
problems that you should stay away from.

Here’s number one:

1. Thinking relationship problems will go away if you
ignore them.

They usually don’t. They usually just keep getting bigger
until you HAVE to do something about them or someone
else takes some action that you may or may not like.

The problem comes in trying to decide if something’s
petty and not worth the effort bringing up, or you’ve brought
it up many times in the past and nothing changes…

Or you need to bring it up because it will only get bigger
if you don’t.

A guideline we use is to first look at what you are doing to
contribute to this situation and then speak from that
place inside with the desire to clear up whatever
misunderstanding there might be.

We might use “Magic Words” like these…

Or even:

“I can see that I do this to keep us apart. Can we
talk about how we both contribute to this problem
and find a better way to be together?”

Look out for the next ‘Bad Relationship Idea’.
In the meantime if you have a method you
use when you want to clear up
misunderstandings,leave a comment and help others at the same time.

Bob Lampard