I was asked a question by Jennifer as to how she could regain the trust of her husband in their relationship.
Learning how to trust again is a very difficult phase when you are trying to repair a current relationship.
You will first need time to heal and be comfortable with yourself before the process can begin. Learning to trust comes only from seeing your partner laying all their cards on the table and making their lives an open book.
It will be an extremely long, slow process, but it will improve with the passing of time. Once your partner’s stories check out as true and when you feel they are completely truthful and not hiding anything from you, then you are on your way to trusting again.
Your partner must be willing to go along with this process wholeheartedly. If they are not helping the process along then it simply will not work and the process will never end.
If your spouse is forever hurting you emotionally you often wish that if they would change their behaviour you’d be happy and could have a happy marriage.
Whilst this sounds simple enough remember you can never force anyone to change. Make a commitment to being happy whether or not your spouse ever changes. After all, you can never give out what you don’t have inside. So if you are not happy yourself you cannot create a happy marriage. Work on changing yourself to be the kind of partner you wish you had.
Bob Lampard
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1 r // Jun 19, 2009 at 2:52 am
“Learning to trust comes only from seeing your partner laying all their cards on the table and making their lives a open book.” A very true statement. Thank you for the timely word. Now I must put it into action.
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